You're Invited: The Art and Science of Cultivating Influence
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- Create Date：2021-05-22 07:30:56
- Update Date：2025-09-06
- Status：finish
- Author：Jon Levy
- ISBN：0063030977
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Reviews
Irina Kozyrkov
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I loved this book。 It's an easy read， but that doesn't mean it's without substance。 Quite the contrary - this book is medicine for the loneliness epidemic and it's more urgently needed now than ever。 Many of us have lost close ties with supportive communities and we're far away from our friends。 "You're Invited" helps you *do* something about it。 It's about learning to grow your influence so you can build communities and friendships。I'm a professional behavioral scientist， so I kept an eye out f I loved this book。 It's an easy read， but that doesn't mean it's without substance。 Quite the contrary - this book is medicine for the loneliness epidemic and it's more urgently needed now than ever。 Many of us have lost close ties with supportive communities and we're far away from our friends。 "You're Invited" helps you *do* something about it。 It's about learning to grow your influence so you can build communities and friendships。I'm a professional behavioral scientist， so I kept an eye out for how the research references are handled and I have to say that I'm pleasantly surprised。 Of course， if you're here for a densely academic book， this one is not for you， since there is plenty of anecdotal storytelling。 This book is an easy and informative read for the non-scientist but it doesn't cause any science eye-rolls。 （A tough balance to strike。） The author does a good job balancing engaging stories， applied advice， highlighted core concepts， and supporting research。 It hits all the right notes。 But that's not the best part。The best part is that it really motivates the reader to make a positive change。 Before I read the book， I was wallowing in a pandemic social-life slump。 After the book， I was inspired to go out and build new friendships。 And I took the book's advice， which I can thank for a whole bouquet of fun new friends （digital and in-person）。 As a scientist in this field， I already was aware of much of the science described in the book， but that wasn't enough。 I wasn't motivated。 That's the magical difference here。 The author talks about the importance of using behavioral science for good and lives up to it since the tips in the book create friendships and communities。 Get the book。 Do what it says。 Be happier and more connected to the people around you。 You'll be glad you did。Highly recommended！ 。。。more
Nigel
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This is a useful book。 It's about increasing your influence to help you make friends。 What I like is that it's a lot more useful than Dale Carnegie's 'How to Make Friends and Influence People' which simply tells you that the secret is to be interested in the other person。 This book gives you a much bigger bag of tricks from science that you can use to put people at their ease and create contexts where friendship is more likely to develop。 What I especially appreciated as an introvert is that it' This is a useful book。 It's about increasing your influence to help you make friends。 What I like is that it's a lot more useful than Dale Carnegie's 'How to Make Friends and Influence People' which simply tells you that the secret is to be interested in the other person。 This book gives you a much bigger bag of tricks from science that you can use to put people at their ease and create contexts where friendship is more likely to develop。 What I especially appreciated as an introvert is that it's not just for flamboyant， extroverted people， but it appeals to a broad range of audiences with a broad range of social skills。 Kudos to the author for that。 I liked it a lot， especially the applied stuff。 。。。more
Nicholas Sonnenberg
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Best book of 2021
Jeffrey Madoff
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"You're Invited" is an interesting read for anyone trying to understand the psychology of relationships and influence。 It's not about "networking"， an activity the author does not like， it's about building a sense of community， where the building blocks are honesty， trust， competence and benevolence。 Trust is an essential building block。 What's interesting about the book and the studies that Levy writes about， it that much of the process of building relationships is fascinating and makes perfect "You're Invited" is an interesting read for anyone trying to understand the psychology of relationships and influence。 It's not about "networking"， an activity the author does not like， it's about building a sense of community， where the building blocks are honesty， trust， competence and benevolence。 Trust is an essential building block。 What's interesting about the book and the studies that Levy writes about， it that much of the process of building relationships is fascinating and makes perfect sense， once he uncovers the behaviors behind them。 Lot's of "Aha！" moments。 It is a well written， fascinating read with a generous helping of insights one can apply to their own life。 。。。more
Kelly
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"You're Invited" is way more aligned with my preferred action-fueled style than the academic， pedagogical books on influence by Robert Cialdini。 And definitely agree - human connection is both art and science - and both are deeply and complementarily covered here。 This feels both timeless and timely， with insights you'd find helpful anytime as well as guidance for navigating intimacy and community during the post-pandemic times。 P。S。 Read cover to cover for a fun hidden surprise :） "You're Invited" is way more aligned with my preferred action-fueled style than the academic， pedagogical books on influence by Robert Cialdini。 And definitely agree - human connection is both art and science - and both are deeply and complementarily covered here。 This feels both timeless and timely， with insights you'd find helpful anytime as well as guidance for navigating intimacy and community during the post-pandemic times。 P。S。 Read cover to cover for a fun hidden surprise :） 。。。more
Vic A。
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